One year ago, I could not envision staying sober for an entire day. One year ago, I was completely broken on the inside. One year ago, I could no longer ...
In my daily life as a mother, Step 10 has a significant relevance. Children under the age of five are sort of like little alcoholics, aren’t they? Self-centred, quick-tempered and emotionally unbalanced, they waver back and forth in an instant from arrogant pride to debilitating fear and disappointment. “It is pointless to become angry, or to get hurt by people who, like us, are suffering from the pains of growing up.” Hmmm.
We grow up a lot in recovery and thank God we begin to understand that hurting others, even accidentally, is not something conducive to happiness. It really is the old “do unto others…” that most of us have heard since we were children.
When we accept ourselves and all our weaknesses, flaws and failings, we can begin to fulfil an even more challenging responsibility – accepting the weakness, limitations and mixed-up-ness of others that we love and respect. Then and only then, it seems, do we become able to accept the weakness, defects and shortcomings of those we find difficult to love.